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Making sure my partner is healthy. Texting friends back to let them know I care and acknowledge them. Making sure my apprentices are prepared for their jobs. Helping family celebrate milestones. Congratulating others without prompt in their recovery. Basically making sure others are taken care of and feel OK with my companionship, friendship, mentorship, and fellowship. Doing all this and realizing I rarely get this from others. In fact, I can’t even remember the last time a spontaneous gesture of appreciation was given.

Most all of us have felt unappreciated and looked over at one time or another in our lives. If you haven’t, I’d venture to say you are superhuman and I need to find out what you’re doing! Although I do what I do for God, I sin by also doing it for personal selfish gain, acceptance, love from someone alongside God. This is something I struggle with daily. Even though we are clearly taught not to do things out of selfishness, but in humility. (Philippians 2:3-4) This can easily be seen as a form of idolatry. Idolatry of emotions that you feel, or feel you are owed, from someone else.

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Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

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I have devoted my recent Bibles studies to figuring out better ways to live for God and not for others. Trying to figure out why I feel unworthy of people and what I can do about it. The feelings of unworthiness are purely of the devil and not of God. The lies are part of the problem. Although the answer seems simple, “just live for God and not others,” it takes a much deeper path in some, including me. I have a psychological dependence that I have fed over the years. Starting with insecurities as a kid and that have carried over into adulthood.

As I’ve mentioned in my information about Alcoholism, the mental state isn’t the sin, but the repeated feeding into it, knowing there is a different way we are supposed to live, is a sin. I am guilty of sinning by continuing to rely on others instead of God alone and what He has to offer me; unconditional love and acceptance. (Ephesians 1:3-6, Genesis 4:7) By doing this, I am basically slapping God’s gifts out of his hand and looking back toward the human. I don’t want to do that, I don’t want to be reliant on others opinions of me, and I want God to be my one and only source of acceptance.

What can you and I do about it? The first step, pardon the cliche, is to acknowledge we are sinning and want to do something about it. The next step is to work on breaking yourself free of the bondage of emotional dependence and understand God’s acceptance of you is all the acceptance you need. (Philippians 4:19)

The way we do this is pray for forgiveness for our sin that we have perpetuated, even though we know it was sinful. Let your actions be good enough for God and you. Remove yourself from situations and relationships that make you feel that you need acceptance from them in order to be happy.

Are you in a cycle of emotional dependence and living for people, Not God? Signs can be, but not limited, to the following;

  • Feeling unworthy of praise
  • Getting upset or hurt because you were not recognized for your accomplishments
  • Seeing the word “no” as pure rejection
  • Feeling as if no one likes you
  • You only feel happy when getting praised

How different do you think your life could be when it only revolves around Cod and Christ? Will you actually allow the change God places in front of you to come to fruition? I think my life would be much better, and I will allow God to change me.

My prayer for breaking the chains of bondage that I have allowed myself to get caught up in;

God who accepts us for all that we are, I ask that you help guide me into a new direction in life where I no longer rely on others acceptance of me, because You are enough. I welcome the change you have in store for me with open arms. Please help me to not be jealous of others achievements and not become angry and slighted when I don’t get the same reaction where I think I should. Please help me break free from this constant cycle of sin. I kneel before you with my requests, and will praise you always, whatever the future holds for me. Amen

  • I found this verse while reading my One Year Recovery Devotional. It applies to this post.

    But I said, “I have labored in vain; I have spent my strength for nothing at all. Yet what is due me is in the Lord’s hand, and my reward is with my God.”
    ~Isaiah 49:4