Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Finding it in ourselves to forgive others for their transgressions against us can be one of the hardest things to do in recovery. I myself have had trouble forgiving others for the things done to me. It is really difficult to let go of those things by forgiving them when it seems like the unforgivable was done against us. We need to realize that it is not about them, it’s about us. Forgiveness is a wholly selfish act, in a good way. It is self care.
Forgiving others is to live by Christ. We were forgiven, so it is our duty to forgive others. This does not mean you have to forget, but it frees you of the emotional attachment of what was done and allows you to move on from it. You are closing out a chapter in your book called life. When we hold on to past issues involving someone we build up anger and resentment. This can easily lead to sinful behavior.
I found it very hard to forgive one particular person in my life for years of emotional, mental, and verbal abuse. It took me several years to muster up the strength to forgive that person, but when I did, I felt such a relief that I could close out that part of my life. It doesn’t make up for what was done, but it does allow some freedom.
God, please allow me to go forward in my life and be forgiving, just like You. You forgave me, so please instill strength and understanding within me so I can forgive others of wrongdoing so that I may live going forward without attachment and live fully in You.